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So, I get asked all the time for advice for males, who want to get into the biz. Yet, again, I thought I would save time and post some general advice here, since I just got on myspace in Jan and have already gotten several men asking. This one, isn't as well formatted since I am doing it on the spot without any sleep. I would advise males to also read my other entry on general modelling, since I have left all that info out of this one.


Getting into Adult Work:

It is much harder for males to break into the industry. There are several different options for entry into the biz.

First: find a girl who will work with you on shoots, who you can pitch to employers with you (something like, "I am looking for shoots, I can provide a female partner or can work with your current roster" in better wording)

Second: prove yourself to a couple girls who already have the contacts and can vouch for your preformance to producers (this is not done by saying that you are good! This is done by showing up to a shoot, staying hard, preforming under high stress conditions, giving a pop shot at the end without a hassle, being comfortable to work with and most importantly respect that it is a job and many of the girls have romantic relationships outside of work)

Third: become part of a company's or several companies stable of males, so that you can keep working continously with them and build up your reputation and resume

Fourth: start your own site, where you run the show, so there is no one to hire you, you hire yourself and choose all the sexy ladies you want to hire for you. This option is fairly expensive and is the least likely to succeed, though many have done very well this way.

Also, whichever of these you decide, there is also lots of options if you are comfortable working solo or with males. Both usually end up on gay sites, but you do not need to be gay, just able to fake it.

The solo route is always a good option for males, because it gets you more camera time and practice, plus it is easier money. Who cares that men will be looking at it, all you gotta do is jack off and get paid. Sometimes talking dirty is required, even sometimes with gay undertones, but so what.

The gay thing is amazing for males if you are comfortable with it and can make it work (pop shot). The money is crazy high for that.
How should I prepare myself & What should I expect?

The only things you need to be concerned about are you appearance and you ability on camera. Appearance is taken care of by grooming and exercise, that part is a no brainer, so I won't get into it.

Ability is the hard part. Generally, the rule is that you are not suppose to masterbate or have sex for 24hrs before shooting, so that your cum is thicker and more white, less on the clear side. This all depends on your body though. If you cum really fast, then perhaps jerking off isn't such a bad idea, so that you can last a decent amount for the camera. That being said, most males don't have a problem cumming too soon, but actually have a problem getting hard, staying hard and reaching orgasm.

You should expect that there will be strangers in the room (lighting, cameraman, makeup, whoever). Also, the woman you work with will possibly be a stranger as well, though most adult models are down to earth (notice I say most hehe). Also, everyone there is there for money and to do a job. So there is no feelings and they may not even find you attractive or you may not find them attractive. You still must make your body work. That is really the hardest part for the male, since the rest of the time the camera doesn't focus too much on what you do, but rather the woman.
Love Relationships in the Industry:

That is a really hard one to answer! It is a matter of luck or sheer will that your partner will understand your career choice. Few who do not work in this business understand the lack of emotion involved. Many people end up dating other people who work in the industry or bring their partner into with them. Some people get lucky (in my case, yes I thank God often) and end up with a partner who does not touch the industry but can support and accept it. DO NOT expect that you will find this often, if you find it, hold on tight! The approach you take really depends on your personality and the person you are dating. I have no advice on to how to tell them. Some people tell the person from the get go, other never tell them. The biggest thing is just making the person understand the lack of emotion involved and how little is actually sex, as opposed to just stick yourself into a hole, who happens to be attached to a body. Since anyone who has ever worked under someone else's direction knows, just when it starts to feel good, you're told to change positions. LOL!

Most Important Things to Remember:

It is a job, not your sex or social life. This is not a path to choose if you are just looking to get laid or meet chicks. Try to be as down to earth as possible, being not clinging is great as well. If you are uncomfortable to work with or creep girls out, you will never be called back. The males are the lowest of the totum poll, and the girl's say will be much higher respected. That being said, the male's job is much harder than the female's - girls can fake, guys cannot, so be prepared to preform under pressure! The truth is, most men will never make a lot of money doing adult work and just do it for the bragging rights and the experience. Men are a dime a dozen, so do not expect to make big cash unless you being famous because you are amazingly easy to work with and happen to get noticed by the right person while you are in the right place at the right time. *LOL*

That is about all that comes to find as of right now, I will probably add more later though. Hope that gives a little helpful advice and insight.
MM

good advice dude .... they will never get it from their agents.